Story 3 : History repeats - Be fair with parents - Part I

We all grow in age with time; whether one likes it or not this is the fact and does not change for anyone. One would definitely see the stages of Newborn, Infant, Toddler, Pre-school(er), Grader, Teen, Adult, Middle Aged, Old and Super Old in their own life. Even though it is pretty evident that every adult/middle aged turns to Old age sometime later, many seems not to understand the "Fair Treatment for Parents".

Following is one such story where parent (mother) gets shuttled between her two sons. You will see that at times it is good to have Humanitarian grounds rather than on Relationship.

This family has two sons both married and living in separate cities. Both are very well educated and they earn nice money each month. One is a Business man and other is a salaried employee. Their father expired when they were kids and her mother did all the toil to raise these kids and give them proper education. She raised them from village boys to a respectable person in their city locality.

She was the loving mother for BOTH of the sons till the marriage. After the marriage this Mother still lived in village thinking that she does not want to be a burden on the sons and daughter-in-laws. As everyone would expect, both daughter-in-laws called her their homes whenever they are in need. During their pregnancy time or when they are not well and so on. This poor Mother did everything that she could right from 55 years till 62 years without uttering a word and VERY HAPPILY.

For this Mother the bad times in her life started. As she is getting older, she had an idea that she should write a will. She has some land and a VERY HUGE house in her village. She started developing Diabetic at the age of 60 years, her eye sight is diminishing, undoubtedly her stamina is touching rock bottom. For any person with common sense, these are very obvious signs of old age and its the time to give some rest to this Mother and do everything the sons and daughter-in-laws could do.

In this part of it, see how this Mother worked for the Sons and Daughter-in-laws. In the next part, we will see how she was treated after her illness and they are letting her die. In the second part,  we will also discuss what's wrong with the situation.

Son1 and Daughter-in-law1

Some Back Ground : This Son1 got married to a very decent family in the society and in terms of money and status they are well below this family. She is well educated and knows how to read and write. They have Son and Daughter.

• Whenever the Daughter-in-law1 wanted to go to her mother's home she used to call her. This poor Mother was happy that she can spend time with the grand kids and Son1.
• This poor Mother was called whenever the Daughter-in-law1's relatives came to the city for pleasure. Daughter-in-law1 wanted the Mother(-in-law) to be at home so that she can be with her relatives.
• This poor Mother used to clean the house, do the washing of kids cloaths, do the washing of vessels, give the kids bath, make the kids ready to school, cook for everyone .... she did all these thinking that "There is nothing wrong in doing OUR OWN work".
• During the May/June time when the crop is ready in her fields, she used to sell them and buy gold for BOTH the daughter-in-laws and get lots and lots of gifts for kids.

Son2 and Daughter-in-law2

Some Back Ground : This Son2 got married to a highly educated girl. They have Daughter and Son.

• The (Grand) Daughter is born with 4 fingers on her right hand. Especially as its a baby girl, this Mother was all worried and she used to do a complete month's fasting for 4 years continuously without looking at her health.
• This Mother used to take care of the (Grand) Daughter 24/7 and everything that one can imagine. Even when she was with Son1, she used to DAILY call the Grand Daughter and talk to her. She had that immaculate affection on this Grand Daughter as she has this problem.
• During the second pregnancy of the Daughter-in-law2, this Mother is with them completely and did all the service in spite of developing a serious diabetic condition.
• This poor Mother used to clean the house, do the washing of kids cloths, do the washing of vessels, give the kids bath, make the kids ready to school, cook for everyone .... she did all these thinking that "There is nothing wrong in doing OUR OWN work".
• During the May/June time when the crop is ready in her fields, she used to sell them and buy gold for BOTH the daughter-in-laws and get lots and lots of gifts for kids.

She did all the above in spite she is in her 60s and NEVER EVER COMPLAINED. This poor Mother was so naive that several years ago, she considered the non-stick cookware's black coating as some sticky substance and she tried to peel it off with spoon while she was washing vessels. One of the Daughter-in-law shouted at her and did not talk to this poor mother for 2 days till SON intervened.

In the next part you will see how this poor Mother was treated when she became ill and could not move.